You know it, girlfriend. He is totally not good enough for you. Or good to you. He lies about things all the time. He swaggers, he's arrogant, he's condescending. And then he has the gall to say that a swagger is just the Texan way of walking. What a prick.

He treats you like you're stupid, talking down to you. You let him do it because you're not listening half the time, but sooner or later, he'll convince you that you are that dumb. Listen to him! He talks like the world is just black and white, bad guys and good guys, and you know perfectly well that life's more complicated than that. It's not like you know any real-to-life angels or devils. And the irony is he's the one who only listens to blatantly bad information that just confirms what he thinks. You trusted him about that war thing, thinking he must know something you didn't, but it turns out he was talking out of his ass. And then he comes back and says that the folks who didn't know anything were and are still doing a perfectly good job of everything. What a load of crap! You wouldn't put up with that kind of bullshit from a used car salesman, so why him? If a guy sold you a car with "perfect" brakes, and you almost died driving it, you'd sue him for everything he's worth.

And did I mention the lies? He says one thing one month and another thing the next. It's like he thinks if he says the same thing over and over again, it's true. And then he and his friends deny they said the first thing at all. It's enough to make you crazy. He's like that boyfriend of my friend who would steal money from her purse and then accuse her of losing it or stealing it herself. He's totally trying to screw with your head. And his doubletalk is out of this world. He's the kind of person to say that trees are polluting. And his friends are no good to you either – backing up his lies. Jerks.

And you know what? I'm sick of hearing you complaining about the state of things, but then saying you can't leave him because he doesn't beat you or cheat on you, so he must be ok. That's not all there is to a man. He's already gotten it so you won't listen to your friends. He claims if they say he's bad for you, they aren't really your friends. Well, listen up girlfriend, that's just the beginning of an abusive man. He's isolating you. He's also slowly taking away your freedoms. He tells you that the world is a scary place and only he can protect you. He says you're much safer with him than with anyone else, but then says you have to stay inside, again, because there might be danger down the street, just when you want to go out and do something on your own. Well, what's with that shit? As I said, he's screwing with your head.

And then there's that other guy, that guy who likes you. He's not so exciting and it's really hard to tell if he's any better. It's easy for you to think that another guy would be just the same, I know – especially with your first guy saying that this other guy must be an unmitigated asshole. But listen up, honey, everything your first guy is saying about Mr. Notsocharismatic is true about himself, doubly so. Mr. Nice Guy has been working hard all his life. Those times when your guys says Mr. Nice Guy was making up his acts of heroism, you know what your current guy was doing? Drunk off his ass, a spoiled rich kid. Your current guy is an untrustworthy louse, and you already know that. Shoot, the more you act like you might want to leave him, the more your feller and his friends get all crazy with the accusations about the other guy.

Honestly, at this point, I think you'd be better off alone. Take a break, try to figure out who you are and what you really want, without all these lies and accusations coming at you all the time. Unfortunately, that's not possible. It's an election year, honey, and you're going to have to choose. Do you stay with the jerk you're with now, or do you try the new guy?